I don’t think I’ll ever fully believe that I am #RockingMotherhood because let’s face it, we all know that we could probably try harder or do better some days. But I also know that no one is perfect, myself included. I’m accepting the #RockingMotherhood challenge because I need to prove to myself that I am truly rocking motherhood.
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I am so grateful that I was nominated for the #RockingMotherhood Challenge by Ashly at The Good, The Bad, & The Poopy (I LOVE her blog name by the way because as a boy mom, everything is about poop). It’s awesome to be shown love from another blogger, especially being so new in the blogging community. I do want to also mention the challenge was started by Patricia from White Camellias and a huge shout out to her for pushing us all outside of the box we live in as moms, always second-guessing ourselves and fearing we’re doing the worst.
I am definitely accepting the challenge and the fact that it will not be easy. It isn’t often that I allow myself to believe that I am the best mother I can be, and this will give me a chance to see that I’m doing a lot better than I usually think I am. In order to accept the challenge, there are a few rules though.
To accept the challenge, you must follow these rules:
- Thank the blogger that tagged/nominated you and link to their blog.
- List 10 things that make you a great mother.
- Tag 3-5 bloggers to join in the #RockingMotherhood challenge.
- Head over to White Camellias & get the badge & add it to your post or sidebar.
Seriously, again thank you to Ashly, what an awesome nomination. Thanks for pushing me out of my safe zone and into self-exploration (by the way, this is going to be a great self-care exercise!). Well ladies, here it goes!
10 Reasons I am #RockingMotherhood
Wow, this is definitely a difficult task. It’s so hard to give myself credit for anything because I always feel like I’m screwing up somehow. Motherhood is so difficult and there really is no legitimate rulebook (yes, I know there are books but not anything that comes close to an actual instruction manual). I’m going to give this a shot though, here are 10 ways I feel I am #RockingMotherhood.
Education is incredibly important to me (hence my continuing college through every difficult point in my life). I try every day to teach my children something, no matter how big or small it is. I mean anywhere from how to clean up after themselves to what not to do to other people. Boys are so wild and ready to go that it can be difficult to get their attention, but I always try to find a way to make the learning fun.
Oh this is a big one. My kids, from day one, have had some form of discipline in their lives. I take discipline seriously as a mother because I am raising boys that will one day have a wife and children they must care for and teach. Today’s world is so full of disrespect and a lack of concern that I am always looking for ways to teach my children right from wrong (here we go with education again, haha).
Okay, I must say that I don’t have a ton of good memories from my childhood that includes my parents. I am always including activities with myself and Kenny for the boys because I want them to have a ton of memories to look back on and tell their future families about. This includes trips, activities, crafts, and more. I always want them to have something happy to think of when they’re in a bad place and need a pick-me-up.
Every child needs compassion. No matter the moods my children are in I always remind them how much they are loved and how much I care for them. Even if this means explaining to them that they are being punished because I care about them. Motherhood is no joke, and it’s so frustrating sometimes. But we have to remember that they are just children and sometimes a little love goes a long way.
Language is very important and teaching your children how to properly express themselves is a big part of this. I have always been semi-strict on how my children speak and how I speak to my children. Yes, we swear but my children know what language is okay and what language is off-limits for them. They have also had the benefit of never learning baby-talk and then the real way to say words because we’ve always communicated with them properly so that they learned at an early age. I am now blessed with two little boys with big vocabularies who use words like disintegrated and disappointed, etc.
Home Cooked Meals
I do my absolute best to cook home-cooked meals every single night for my whole family. We plan our meals regularly so that we all know what is for dinner and we are all involved in choosing the meals we’re eating. This, in my opinion, enhances our bond as a family and gives the children a chance to use their voice and share their opinion. We also eat these home-cooked meals as a family at the kitchen table, no tv, no electronics. I value shared family time with open communication and this is one way we bring it into our family.
As a mom, it is easy to give in when your child is struggling to figure out something or come up with ideas for their homework. I am very aware of the frustration because Aiden hates being creative, but when I urge him to use his imagination and brainstorm with him he fills a page with amazing ideas. This also comes into play when they pretend to be superheroes or pretend that their stuffed dog is real and needs to eat dinner. Let them be children while they still have the chance and maybe even join in with them. Play superheroes or tea party, “eat” the play-doh cake that they so carefully made for you.
Let them be messy
Once in a while, you just have to leave the mess be and let them enjoy it. I’m a bit of a neat freak and most days my house doesn’t look like children live in it. But on occasion, I’ll just let them go wild for a few hours. Although I make them clean it up after, I just leave them be. They love the small amount of freedom that I give them from keeping everything clean, and I love the fact that I’m not nagging them to pick their toys up as soon as their done. Let’s be honest, kids will play with a toy for 3 seconds, get a new one, then go back to the other one. This is just a cycle they go through with their developing attention spans and sometimes it’s nice to just let them go.
I am constantly making sure my boys are becoming responsible little people. They have chores (age-appropriate of course) and are expected to pick up after themselves when they get up from the kitchen table. If they see something on the floor, they know to pick it up. I don’t run around behind them cleaning up after them. I am hoping that this is instilling in them some responsibility for the future.
My children know that respect is important. They know that respecting others is expected from them, no matter the situation. It can be a hard concept for them to grasp, but I’ve learned that the higher expectations I set, the more they blow me away. These kids are so darn smart, and I make sure they know that I realize that. But I also want them to know that they need to be respectful toward us, each other, and everyone they come in contact with. Both boys use their manners no matter what, including opening & holding doors for people! Yes, my 4-year-old holds doors open for others (and myself) and I have to say it is the most adorable thing every and always shocks people.
Now on to the nominations, I’d like to nominate the following mothers for the #RockingMotherhood challenge:
Abram of Minted Love Co.
Candice of Mom in Motion
Aryn of With Cream & Sugar
Thank you all so much for stopping by and thanks to Ashly once more. This was the hardest and most honest thing I’ve done in a while. It’s hard to look so deeply at yourself and how successful you are at something. I’m always questioning myself and telling myself I could do better so it was refreshing to see what I am doing good.
Mamas, good luck with your #RockingMotherhood challenge and much love from this mama to you.